 ALIANTHA |
| ALIANTHA |
Aliantha is about friendships, and
those have to be built through many informal connections between individuals.
The group activities we have are really a celebration of the interwoven
network of individual friendships that we share.
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MEMBERSHIP GUIDELINES
PRIVILEGES - Being a member of Aliantha allows you to host events, and to come to our member-only events.NEWCOMERS - If you are new to Aliantha, you are welcome to come to one of our social events to get to know us and let us get to know you. All Freeheart events are public events. To come to our other events an existing member must invite you. These events are where we share deeper parts of ourselves, seeking to be closer with each other, and we seek a more familiar atmosphere with people whom we have come to trust.
BECOMING A MEMBER - To become a member, first attend several public events, get to know us, and let us know you. Read our basic principles and goals, and if you agree with them, find an existing member who is willing to sponsor you and present you. If there are no objections, you will be made a member.
DUES - Currently there are no dues for being a member of Aliantha. However, we gladly accept any gifts of assistance in creating, hosting, advertising and organizing events for the community. All your talents are greatly appreciated.
INTENTION - While our personal paths are wide and varied, there is a certain way we seek to relate to each other that creates a sense of community and stability. This way includes transparency, gentle honesty, conflict resolution, presence in relationships, and awareness of one's own feelings.
Consensus
Those who choose to participate in the process commit to actively participate in consensus.
Those who choose not to participate in the process can give input but have no say over the outcome.
Those who choose to participate commit to make decisions based on the common good rather personal preference.
If we are communicating by email, we will allow seven days for everyone to read and react to proposals made.Designated Angel
At every event where there is free unstructured time, and especially when visitors are present, we will attempt to designated someone as "angel". The purpose of the angel is to help people with feelings that might hinder them from fully being a part of the group. The designated angel will be announced at the beginning of the event.The angel is available during an event to be approached by anyone who feels lonely, is upset, or just needs someone to talk to. The angel be prepared to give time to those who need it and sacrifice some of their own time at the event.
The angel actively looks for people at an event who are standing back, acting shy, looking upset, or otherwise are not comfortable, and offers an ear. The angel listens, but does not necessarily have to fix situations. The host or others should be contacted if something needs to be done in the moment.
The angel makes sure there is a quiet room available at an event for talking and counseling, and checks periodically to be sure it is being used in a way that is useful to everyone who needs it.
As members of Aliantha, we seek to:
- Accept ourselves right where we are today
- Be open to growing in new directions
- Listen to and accept others as they are rather than trying to change them
- Avoid giving advice unless asked for
- Allow others the right to grow at their own pace
- Work on ourselves when we discover we are acting in ways that unnecessarily hurt others
- Be open to resolving all conflicts with other members when we discover feelings within ourselves that block us from being open and intimate
- Ask for help when we need help
- Be willing to say "no" when we need to
- Be willing to take "no" for an answer
- Give to others when we have an abundance to share
Our special words are necessary. Some of the concepts we take for granted don't exist in the minds of ordinary people, so we need to make new words to label our concepts
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